My husband is also a veteran and was told by VA doc that surgery would not help and that he should enjoy sex while he still could,,,,,,He became even more depressed after this visit with the VA urologist,I asked our NON-VA family physician to please refer him to an outside urologist because inthe 3 years that he has been using the vitamin E theraphy he has seen NO improvement only continual worsening. Now he can no longer enjoy ANY type of sexual relationship.Thankfully our NON-VA primary physician was very compassionate and concerned and has arranged a referral to a urologist that has some experience with this problem,I will do my best to let you know what I find out and wish you gods speed and the best of luck DONT give up GET an OUTSIDE DOC that will respect your concerns and try to help you.